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The Good Wife

Today I heard contrasting stories about wives. One husband said he would give his wife anything, eternally grateful for how she encouraged him through medical school and his practice. The other was ungrateful for his wife’s contributions, blaming her for most of their struggles. Both views made me think of the following post, originally published September 23, 2009 under the title Momma Wife? This challenges wives to be biblical regardless of how their husbands treat them. Yes, this is a hard word, but one we as wives who call ourselves Christians must embrace so that God is the only one who receives glory. Continue reading

Sherrod Charade

As I have thought about the unfair treatment of Shirley Sherrod, I remembered my post on Equality vs. Fair Treatment. In white racists and angry white male sympathizers’ attempts to show that they, too, are not racists, both groups immediately condemned Sherrod for what they believed was equal to the discrimination some whites have been guilty of. Every situation is unique. That’s why I believe being treated fairly, not equal, should always be the goal. Read this Continue reading

Keep Your House (via Musings of a (Recovering) Strong Black Woman’s Weblog)

Though I’m taking a break from blogging, I can never break from keeping my house.

Many times these days you may find me barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen as I serve my family and prepare to bring another of God’s chosen into the world. Years ago you wouldn’t find me this way: I cooked out of my own necessity and didn’t care much if I got married or had children or not. And if God decided that I should marry and get pregnant, my attitude was “You will never find me in the kitchen barefoot and pregnant.” I mimicked the cliché … Read More

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Reproductive Rights (via Musings of a (Recovering) Strong Black Woman’s Weblog)

Last week I had a pretty intense conversation on Christians and birth control with my best friend Carla. We have differing views. This talk brought to mind this post I wrote April 2009, particularly the line that “economic or emotional reasons … may not be cause to use birth control ….” As I am still pondering and reconsidering under what circumstances that economic or emotional reasons may not be cause to use birth control, I ask you to think about that and give me your feedback.

The age old argument for abortion goes: “I’m not in favor of abortion for me, but I believe women should have a choice to decide what they want to do with their own bodies.” I used to think that, too. In my teens and early 20s, I was vocal about it and placed money on it, giving $200 to help fund a friend’s late term abortion. An age old argument for birth control methods goes: “I don’t want to get pregnant so I’m going to take birth control pill … Read More

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Emasculating She-Devil?

A few days ago I saw this segment that asked “Is there a thin line between being a strong black woman and an emasculating she-devil?” The hosts offered their opinions, albeit purposely slim–they wanted to hear what viewers thought. Anyway, their question reminded me of some strong black woman issues that I brought up in a post of that same name. Click the link to check it out. As always, tell me what you think.

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