10 Ways to Nurture Your Husband

Invest in Yourself

1. Make a commitment to be a biblical wife. This commitment should be made first and foremost because God calls you to be one. To strengthen this commitment, read God’s word on the matter, study biblically-sound Christian materials, and refer to my blog, including the two previous posts in this series. Wanting to please God and understanding the impact behind obeying Him make the commitment easier to keep.
2. Examine your fruit. See what areas of the Fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23) that you need to work on and do it. You can have a heart’s desire to do and understand God’s will, but if your fruit is rank, you will only be able to offer spoiled goods that have no nutritious value for your husband.
3. Take time for yourself. You cannot, I repeat—CANNOT— keep nurturing others and not pour into yourself. Even Jesus took time away from the crowd to be alone with God the Father. You must stop your work and pause the nurturing to get nurtured yourself. Do what you enjoy that will refresh your soul and spirit and enable you to joyfully give to others.

Invest in His Body

4. Show him affection. Initiate kissing him every time you enter each other’s presence. Make love to him even when you don’t feel like it; ask God for strength to help you nurture your husband sexually. Remember, it’s on him if he strays, but it’s up to you not to give him a “reason” to (See “Wife Addition”).
5. Make him comfortable by pampering his body. Some men don’t like manicures and pedicures or even massages, but you know what makes his body feel good. Whatever it is, do it.
6. Make his atmosphere comfortable so he feels comfortable. Create a welcoming environment in your home so he wants to be there. Keep it clean, beautiful (make sure you have some masculine touches, too) and smelling good with food and other delightful fragrances. Declare your home to be a cozy and combat-free zone.

Invest in His Spirit
7. Pray for him. Do this alone and in his presence. He doesn’t always have to pray with you, but make sure you bless him daily and on those special occasions.
8. Share with him scriptures that you have studied that remind you of his strength of character or will otherwise encourage him. Tell him why you are sharing that scripture.
9. Fast for him. Sometimes you see your husband in warfare or he is having a hard time making a tough decision. Fast for him to help his breakthrough come.

Invest in His Emotions

10. All of the above no doubt will positively impact your husband’s emotions, but make sure to also intentionally watch your mouth (Psalm 141:3). This means for us to watch the bad that comes out of our mouths, but we need to ask God to also help us watch for the good that should come out of our mouths. Plan good things to communicate to your husband not just with what you say but even with what you write to him. Dote on him with spoken and written words that you share daily. Why not be like Sara and call him lord (with a little ‘l’)? He is the master of the house; surely you can reverence him as such.

Of course there is a lot more I could say, but I think you understand where I’m coming from. Invest in yourself and make sure you know your husband so you can tailor your investment to his body, spirit and emotions. Nurturing him will surely help him to be the man God has called him to be.

Copyright 2009 by Rhonda J. Smith


6 responses to “10 Ways to Nurture Your Husband

  1. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes.

    It is all about showing our spouses Godliness in our love, adoration, affection and interest.

    I write a blog to all men on how to better love their wives. I would really appreciate your thoughts and comments if you have a minute to take a look.



  2. Excellent! Thank you for writing this. Many marriages are suffering nowadays. I still can’t figure out why so much has changed in marriages since I was growing up in the 50’s & 60’s. We need to get back to what God expects of us in a marriage. God Bless!


  3. musingsofastrongblackwoman

    Thanks Ken. And I would love to read and comment on your blog and will.

  4. musingsofastrongblackwoman

    Thanks, Hannah. I think much may have changed from the ’50s and ’60s because a lot of women have taken women’s liberation into their marriages and they really want to be free from any action that smacks of traditionalism. Many of us have been the detriment to our own marriages because of seeking this so-called freedom.

  5. Im not married yet but I gathering up good Godly information to help me in preparation for be a good Godly wife to my good Godly husband. Thanks

  6. musingsofastrongblackwoman


    Thanks so much for stopping by. I’m glad this was a help for you.

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